At The Better Normal, we celebrate love in all its forms. We are lovers of love and believe that love can conquer all. As long as it’s free, love creates tight bonds and builds powerful relationships. However, we know that long-distance relationships can be challenging.
Distance, if not properly addressed, separates us. It makes us feel far from each other. And, in many cases, it makes us feel alone. That’s why today we bring you some tips and recommendations to help you navigate your long-distance relationship harmoniously.
What’s a Long-Distance Relationship?
A long-distance relationship occurs when two people choose to engage in a relationship from two different places. It’s an unconventional but very common way of relating. Since the COVID-19 pandemic, many ways of connecting even when apart have emerged and continue to be a reality for many couples.
Often, life’s circumstances pull us apart. Some of the most common reasons include new job opportunities, for educational purposes (whether short courses or university), volunteering, or temporary internships. However, the bonds are so strong that, regardless of the barriers, the relationships endure.
According to Cornell University, Approximately 7 million couples in the United States consider themselves to be in long-distance relationships. These relationships include 2.5 to 3 million long-distance marriages with some studies suggesting rates of long-distance marriage as high as 10-16%.
Some Tips for Navigating Long-Distance Relationships
Yes, we know long-distance relationships can be challenging. But you can do it! If you’re still struggling to find the best way to manage this type of relationship, we recommend starting to develop strategies for your well-being and that of your partner. That’s why today we’re sharing some tips for you to consider:
Communication is Key
When engaging in long-distance relationships, we must understand that dialogue is essential. It is important to articulate what we are experiencing to communicate it to the other person. In this sense, assertive communication is key. Often, text messages can lead to misunderstandings. That’s why
Additionally, active listening is also crucial. The other person needs to feel that they have a safe space to express themselves as well. And when we talk about space, we mean it literally. A space in your calendar and your day. You might find it helpful to set aside specific times during the week to call your partner.
Set Boundaries
There is no relationship without boundaries—the good kind, that is. It’s crucial that you define your future together. Having clear expectations in advance will help reduce stress and protect your well-being. Here are some questions you can discuss with your partner:
Where is this relationship going? What are we? Are we exclusive? When will we see each other next? What are your future plans?
Be Creative!
Don’t fall into monotony. Even though distance separates you from your partner, there are still many activities you can do together. No matter the miles apart, the relationship needs to grow, and it’s something both of you need to work on. Here are some ideas:
- Call rituals
- Weekly date nights
- Cook together
- Work out together
- Stream series and movies together
- Read the same books and discuss them
- Explore your sexuality
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Don’t Let Distance Beat You!
Yes, we know it’s not easy. But it’s all about the commitment you have with your partner. If both of you have agreed to pursue a long-distance relationship, you must commit to making it work. And it’s a job that requires effort from both people.
At The Better Normal, we believe in the power of energy, love, and good people. There are connections that, without a doubt, transcend all kinds of barriers—even distance.
Start Individual or Couples Therapy
Yes, mental health is still a taboo. While it is now a part of our normal routine to go to therapy, we know that there is still a stigma around it. Talking about mental health is important. Going to therapy doesn’t mean you are unwell, crazy, or unable to solve your problems. If the suffering is overwhelming and hard to manage, it’s best to consult a professional.
We even recommend looking for a therapist who specializes in couples. Couples therapy may sound intimidating, but it’s a tool that can help both you and your partner. You’ll be able to express your emotions effectively and also listen to your partner, truly understanding how they feel.
“The most successful couples don’t avoid conflict; they know how to manage it, repair after disagreements, and reconnect. It’s not about avoiding fights, but about how you handle them and communicate that makes the difference” – Alivia Hall, from LiteMinded.
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Friendly Reminder: You’re Not Alone!
If you’re here and you’re not going through a good time, we want you to know that you’re not alone. You are valuable and you deserve a life full of happiness and fulfillment. Difficult moments pass. But with the right resources, you’ll be able to build a strong toolkit to be prepared for whatever comes. However, it’s also important to recognize that some paths simply aren’t meant to be.
Relationships should be good for us and elevate who we are. They should bring out the best in us and make us feel well. That’s why it’s important to pay attention to the signs of toxic or harmful behaviors. Sometimes, the path we’re on isn’t the best, and it’s okay to take a step back to protect our well-being.
And if you’re having a bad day, remember that the good thing is it only lasts 24 hours 😉
