We all love the moment in the Holiday when Jude Law falls for Cameron Diaz in the kitchen of a cozy English cottage, in those adorable glasses and perfectly ironed, white button down shirt. Or the scene toward the end of Love Actually where Mark stands outside in the frigid air, confessing his love to Juliet by holding a sign that reads, “to me, you are perfect.”
The holidays are all about romantic love, or at least that’s what society wants us to think. Our culture has created the idea that you must be in a perfect relationship with someone you love during the holidays so that the two of you can galavant together through Central Park in the snow, right? But what if we find ourselves entering into the holiday season ridin’ solo? Or as Emma Watson recently put it, self-partnered?
If being single during the holidays is getting you down, here are a few things to help you remember that not being paired up can be a really, really great thing.
You can take this time to rest
Let’s face it: relationships are time consuming. This isn’t a bad thing at all, but it’s just how it is. You now split your time with another person, and this is especially important around the holidays!
Two thanksgivings…traveling back and forth on Christmas day…trying to compromise on plans for NYE…relationships during the holidays take time!
If you’re single this year, embrace the lack of stress and shared time you’ll have. It’s just you, which means it’s time to catch up on naps, reading, and Netflix shows. Do you love the Blockbuster hits that are released around this time of year? Treat yourself to a solo movie date with extra butter on your popcorn.
You can take this time to reflect
You’ve got the time to rest, which also means you have more time to reflect. The holidays mark an end to another year, and it’s important to reflect on what you went through.
Although relationships can be fun and exciting around this time of year, it takes away from self-reflection. And self-reflection is the key for growth and achieving your goals in life.
Take this time to be intentional about what you want to learn! It may seem frustrating to see everyone else partnered up, but remember that this is your time to grow!
Holiday romance is hyperbolized
It’s cute, it’s exciting, it’s comforting. But holiday romance is not always everything it’s cracked up to be. If you’ve ever been in a relationship, you know that it comes with its challenges.
Because of holiday movies and Netflix specials, it’s easy to sometimes feel like love around this time of year is nothing but magical. But if the lack of a relationship this year is getting you down, focus on the fact that the holiday love we see in movies is entirely unrealistic.
We understand the pressures of finding love this time of year, and the sadness that can come with not finding it. But you’re not alone!
Do you have any other thoughts on being single this year? Let us know in the comment section below!