Most of us tend to overlook or forget ourselves when we prioritize others. Sometimes, if we are caring and thoughtful towards other people, we end up sacrificing our needs, even our happiness. But what do we do about this? How can we care for ourselves without feeling selfish or neglecting the people around us, especially as we enter into a brand new year?
1. Carve out alone time
This one is probably the most basic, but important, step we can take. Take a breather. Put down that phone and stay away from social media for a couple of days––there’s definitely nothing wrong with “hibernating” or being alone. Being alone sometimes is associated with being lonely, but that isn’t the case.
Sometimes, being alone helps us to recuperate and recharge from all the stress and negative things we’ve been going through. This is also probably the best time for you to catch up on the things you’ve been putting off for so long.
2. Don’t hesitate to spend money on yourself
Aside from spending time alone, treating yourself is another effective thing you can do to care for yourself best. We’ve been so focused on giving to others, making others happy with gifts this holiday season, but have you thought about what you want for yourself?
Buying things for yourself is not selfish, it’s self-loving. If that dress makes you happy, go for it! If you think you need some pamper time at the salon, book that appointment! Spending a little moolah on yourself won’t hurt, just make sure that at the end of all that spending, you still have something left to make it through the holidays.
3. Work on that bucket list
Whether it’s traveling somewhere you’ve never been, or trying out something you’ve never done before, go for it! Exploring or trying out new things is another way of caring for ourselves because it gives us a sense of fulfillment. Some of us, if not all, get that feeling of satisfaction every time we cross something off on our to-do list.
Why don’t you start another list, but this time, try making a list that is not chore or work-related? Grab a pen and notebook and make a list of all the things you want to do or accomplish for yourself. Make this list all about YOU and what will make YOU happy!
4. Start a journal
If you haven’t already, it’s never too late to start writing in a journal. Whether it’s on a good day or a day you sort of wish was over, writing in a journal on a daily or weekly basis can help you unload or unwind what has transpired during the day or week.
It can be a form of personal therapy, a self-assessment on things you want to look at, maybe change, improve or even retain. You can also look back at it come next new year and you might actually be surprised by all the changes and improvements you’ve accomplished in the past year.
And we don’t mean with just material things! Aside from clearing out your closet of things you rarely or no longer use, and selling it or donating it, clearing your life of unpleasant people is also a huge form of self-care. It might sound selfish, but it’s truly helpful for your life!
Maybe it’s time for you to unfollow or unfriend certain people, not just on social media but in real life. Don’t be afraid to choose what you think is good for you, what you think will make you feel better, because at the end of the day, it’s your life that will get better or worse, not theirs!
So since it’s almost the new year and we are all probably aiming for the “new year, new me” goal, what are the things that you could suggest to others in order for them to care for themselves? What do you want to do or usually do to give back to yourself? Let us know through the comments section below and help out a friend today!